WE GO TOGETHER

Hey guys! Here's a quick update of what I've been doing last week! Then I'll have to rush off for lunch and head to the airport soon.

2 Fridays ago, I received a call from my junior Shaun. And from the call came not Shaun but Theo's voice! Yep, IF YOU HAVEN'T KNOW, MY FRIEND IS BACK IN SG! (For holidays only lah)

She said she wanted to surprise me at my house but didn't know my schedule and so she called me instead. HAHAH. Rushed back to band room after school to find her.

On Tuesday, we met up for an outing together and headed down to town!

Been long since both of us hung out together with only the two of us.

Oh wellz, here's her new friend she wanted to introduce me to -_-

Walked around town and we were caroling along the streets of Orchard. AHAH and I brought this girl to get BFF as a treat because I know she haven't had it before.

Headed to Bukit Batok for dinner after.

I attended school as usual then came Thursday!!
Class ended at 12pm and I headed home to get ready for e-learning. But so much for that, I fell asleep 10mins right after I logon and did my quiz. lolz.

Headed to CWP after to meet up with my girls for dinner together.
Been so long since we got together. This time, it's a complete TCSFY!
*cheers*

Ajisen for dinner and later on we just spent time together doing our usual lame stuffs.
Had so much fun though we didn't really do much. HAHAH. Just like old times.

Had to go down to FEP after school on Friday for work because Chloe has got some Christmas dinner to attend.

Saturday was work at TAKA.
And Sunday was work back at FEP again.

I introduced 2 of my friends to work at FEP and they are none other than Shushia and Yanting. This week was Shushia's turn to work.

That's how my week went.

Skipped class today because I was too lazy and tired.
OFF FOR LUNCH NOW! SEE YA 2 WEEKS LATER!!!!!!


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CHEATING IN A RELATIONSHIP

Whenever girls mention the word "cheating" guys would most of the time think that we girls meant being "sexually unfaithful".

NO. WE DON'T MEAN BEING SEXUALLY UNFAITHFUL MOST OF THE TIME (EVEN THOUGH THAT, IS ALSO CHEATING).
Seeing a girl behind our back MIGHT cheating too.

In the grand scheme, guys usually think that if they aren't able to accept their girl doing something with another man, then they shouldn't do it with other woman. 

However, what both gender did wrong is that they NEVER thought about what their partner would consider as "cheating".

I think one problem about relationship is that boundaries are not clearly set. And one party would be "unintentionally" cheating on the other causing problems to rise up in a relationship.

Let me give you an example:
X and Y are together in a relationship.
X thinks that lying to go out with the opposite gender is wrong.
Y thinks that going out with the opposite gender is totally fine.

But because but Y doesn't know if X is fine with he/she going out with the opposite gender, he/she ends up lying to X while going out with the opposite gender.
When X finds out, X feels cheated by Y but Ydoesn't see why it is wrong because to Y, going out with the opposite gender is fine and he/she lied because he/she didn't know if X would be fine with it too.

Lesson: Don't do things in which you are unsure if it's acceptable to your partner.

The problem is that people don’t clearly define their boundaries when they are in a relationship and they just assume that their 
boundaries and their partner’s boundaries are similar.
This causes one of the party to gradually cross the border and “cheat” without really realizing so.

For some people, they might feel that it is cheating when his/her partner goes on a 1 on 1 date with the opposite sex. But how would his/her partner ever know till they voice out? 

This is what I've learnt after my past relationships. After months of reflection on what went wrong to mine.

I know how it feels like to have both parties confused because they have different values/boundaries and they assume that it is similar to their partners. 
I know how it feels like to feel that you are being cheated on when on the other end, your partner doesn't feel he/she is doing so.
So what I'm giving you people out there as an advice is that you should both voice out and let each other know the boundaries to make sure you and your partner are on the same page.

Or just don't do it if you're not sure if your partner would be alright with it.

Anywayz, before I carry on, here's some fun-facts for you people to know!

• Men are more likely than women to cheat with someone who is less attractive than their current partner. Women cheat up while men are more opportunistic when it comes to cheating. Men are more likely than women to have a one-night stand. 
• Women are more prone to having emotional affairs. Men are less likely to consider leaving their partners after cheating. 
• When women cheat, it tends to be more emotionally involved so they are more likely to consider ending their current relationship. Men are more likely than women to repeatedly cheat on a spouse or partner 

SO TO ALL GIRLS OUT THERE, IF YOUR PARTNER EVER CHEATED ON YOU, YAY! YOU'RE PRETTIER THAN THE GIRL HE CHEATED ON = HE DOWNGRADED! WIN!

Not my point for this post anyway.
My point for this post is to tell you how an asshole, a jerk, douche/bitch, you are if you are cheating/ ever cheated in a relationship.

If there's anything I can say about cheating, it would be that there is something wrong about the person who cheats. YES. YOU. NOTHING ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR YOUR PARTNER BUT YOU.

There is no excuse or reason to justify infidelity. 
If your relationship is in trouble, you should stay and sort out/solve your problems with your partner and not someone else. If you determine your relationship impossible to be salvaged, then you break up and leave your partner before you look for someone else. YOU DON'T CHEAT.

The thing about cheaters is that they almost never think that they are in the wrong and they would reason it out and explain why they cheated. Thinking that if their reason is good enough, it's okay and understandable that they cheated. 
HELL NO, IT IS NOT OK.

I find it really selfish and I detest cheaters.

One thing they don't get is how their actions would affect their partner. Well, of course they don't and that's why they cheat.

Then some cheaters would go "I didn't touch or have physical contact what. How is it cheating." Even when they have feelings for the opposite sex emotionally.

Think about it, how would you like it that when you're together with your partner, he/she is always thinking about someone else.

Whether it is emotional cheating or physical cheating, cheating is cheating.

And it's never about how small/little their action means to them. It's about how it has affected/hurt their partner and that's one thing they would never get.

PLUS cheaters always have it better even though they are in the wrong? At most if their partner finds out, they would break up and go with the "third party" while the partner is left alone feeling all the hurt and pain.

People who are being cheated on ALWAYS, ALWAYS will have to feel hurt and try to fix their broken heart when it is NOT in any way their fault that their partners cheat. HOW IS THAT FAIR?

How is it fair that cheaters can just break up and feel so "carefree" when the one who isn't cheating in the relationship would then be an idiot and go do tons of reflection about what went wrong and what they did wrong when IT IS NEVER THEIR FAULT?

And many of the people who are being cheated on are usually those who have loved whole heartedly. When they found out that their partner has cheated on them, it kills them and they have to take years to get over it. Some might never.

Bottom line, If you can't stay faithful, stay single. As simple as that.

We all want to feel safe in a relationship and having to worry about whether or not our significant other is going to cheat does not equate that feeling. 

If he/she cheats once, get help. If he/she cheats twice, get out.

Updates: Work, Attica, Gardens By The Bay

Hello Guys! 

Here's some updates of what I've been up to the past few weeks!

On Sunday 3 weeks ago I went for service as usual and headed for work @ FEP after service.

If you haven't know, I'm now back working at FEP because Chloe decided she's too lazy to work everyday. lol. 

So yup, I decided to go back and help her plus because I wanted to buy soooo many things, I wanted more money.

I'm so in love with this mustard military jacket in the shop!! I didn't want to sell when a customer wanted to buy it at first because Chloe only brought in one piece. Lol. So I was actually reluctant to sell it to the customer. HAHAHAH. But I did.
Asked Jamie if she has another piece in her shop and she said yes. So I'm contemplating right now if I should get it at $60ish. YOU SAY??

Anyway, Zhiying came to my shop later on for me to accompany him to dinner. And the first thing he said when he entered my shop was "Eh. How come our face so fat. You don't swallow your food and store all of it in your face is it?" >:@

So 2 weeks ago, my tests ended on a Friday (31 Nov)!!!!

Decided to head to Clarke Quay with Joshua as his friend booked a table over at Attica and asked if I wanted to join them. So I did.

Joshua came to pick me up at around 10.30pm and we headed over to Clarke Quay to meet Rishi for KFC (yucks) and then entered at around 11.30pm or so.
But the fun didn't last for very long because we had free flow of alcohol... Or should I say, I ruined it myself. Lol. I got really nauseous and tipsy half way through that Joshua and Rishi had to get me home an hr plus later ):

Hangover was terrible.
I don't know why but I don't get headaches for hangover like most people do but instead, I vomit the whole of next day and am unable to consume any food/drink. I ABHOR IT.
It feels worse than being sick. Thank God this time it wasn't as bad as the hangover I got after my birthday celebration. But it still doesn't take away the fact that I LITERALLY WANTED TO DIE!

Nevertheless, because my mum has already planned a family outing with my grandparents, I woke up the next day at 10am in the morning to get ready and head out for Marina Bay Sands.

Imagine me vomiting like a Merlion, wanting to die and feeling so sick while walking around the place. It felt retard, I felt sick, I felt nauseas, I felt terrible. It was everything wrong altogether.
Still, I had to bear with it because it I wanted to spend time together with my family and grandparents.

I'm not one who likes to look at flowers or even get excited when I receive them. Compared to flowers, I would rather visit museums.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE MUSEUMS.
My mum brings me to museums since young and I absolutely enjoy all my trips to the museum. I can spend hours and hours there because everything is just so interesting. -Especially historical museums.

I was bored looking and flowers and flowers and more flowers. The only thing there that got me excited was all the bears, penguins and animals that were randomly placed around the garden.

Anyway, at least I felt a little more comforted knowing that I won't miss out a lot even though I'm feeling sick because I have absolutely no interest in flowers at all.

Here's a I'm-so-bored-and-nauseus hangover face. lol.

OH AND I JUST CREATED ANOTHER BANK ACCOUNT TODAY!!
Hehehe. I'm proud of myself for doing it on my own without the help of my mum or dad ^^ #AchievementUnlocked
Been wanting to open another account solely for my spending so I wouldn't over spend what I earned and eat into the money my grandparents, dad, mum have been putting into my account. So yeap, now that I have an account that I HAVE IN CONTROL, I don't have to worry about my mum getting all naggy because she sees the decrease in the number of digits whenever she updates my bank book!

YAY FOR ME!

Day out with Theo today and we headed to town. Really enjoyed being retarded with her all over again. Haven't had anyone to be retarded with ever since she went to Australia. Had dinner at Batok after that and headed home.

I CAN'T WAIT FOR SCHOOL VACATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

OK BYE