This is for you and I hope you feel better. You were willing to give so much to the people you love and you never understood why they never did the same when it comes to you. Is it because you are really unlovable? Is it because there is something wrong with you? That is what you have always been asking and my dear, every time you think that, it breaks my heart. I hope you know that it is never the intensity of your love but the quality of people you are loving. I stumbled upon this quote online and instinctively thought of you. I hope someday, you will be able to find someone, who like everyone else, takes what you can give but also, find strength to give the same back to you. I hope you never lose your sense of wonder, your innocence even is the midst of finding out how cruel the world might be and I hope you never lose the capacity to keep on loving. Because one day, people who left, like me who realized that the problem was never you being sensitive or being too needy. It was with me, us, who wants to take everything you can give but never giving back.
IT’S EASY TO FEEL UNCARED FOR WHEN PEOPLE AREN’T ABLE TO COMMUNICATE AND CONNECT WITH YOU IN THE WAY YOU NEED. AND IT’S SO HARD NOT TO INTERNALIZE THAT SILENCE AS A REFLECTION ON YOUR WORTH. BUT THE TRUTH IS THAT THE WAY OTHER PEOPLE OPERATE IS NOT ABOUT YOU. MOST PEOPLE ARE SO CAUGHT UP IN THEIR OWN RESPONSIBILITIES, STRUGGLES, AND ANXIETY THAT THE THOUGHT OF ASKING SOMEONE ELSE HOW THEY’RE DOING DOESN’T EVEN CROSS THEIR MIND. THEY AREN’T INHERENTLY BAD OR UNCARING — THEY’RE JUST BUSY AND SELF-FOCUSED. AND THAT’S OKAY. IT’S NOT EVIDENCE OF SOME FUNDAMENTAL FAILING ON YOUR PART. IT DOESN’T MAKE YOU UNLOVEABLE OR INVISIBLE. IT JUST MEANS THAT THOSE PEOPLE AREN’T VERY GOOD AT LOOKING BEYOND THEIR OWN WORLD. BUT THE FACT THAT YOU ARE — THAT DESPITE THE DARKNESS YOU FEEL, YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO SHARE YOUR LOVE AND LIGHT WITH OTHERS — IS A STRENGTH. YOUR WORK ISN’T TO CHANGE WHO YOU ARE; IT’S TO FIND PEOPLE WHO ARE ABLE TO GIVE YOU THE CONNECTION YOU NEED. BECAUSE DESPITE WHAT YOU FEEL, YOU ARE NOT TOO MUCH. YOU ARE NOT TOO SENSITIVE OR TOO NEEDY. YOU ARE THOUGHTFUL AND EMPATHETIC. YOU ARE COMPASSIONATE AND KIND. AND WITH OR WITHOUT ANYONE’S ACKNOWLEDGMENT OR AFFECTION, YOU ARE ENOUGH. Daniell Koepke
This is for you and I hope you feel better. You were willing to give so much to the people you love and you never understood why they never did the same when it comes to you. Is it because you are really unlovable? Is it because there is something wrong with you? That is what you have always been asking and my dear, every time you think that, it breaks my heart. I hope you know that it is never the intensity of your love but the quality of people you are loving. I stumbled upon this quote online and instinctively thought of you. I hope someday, you will be able to find someone, who like everyone else, takes what you can give but also, find strength to give the same back to you. I hope you never lose your sense of wonder, your innocence even is the midst of finding out how cruel the world might be and I hope you never lose the capacity to keep on loving. Because one day, people who left, like me who realized that the problem was never you being sensitive or being too needy. It was with me, us, who wants to take everything you can give but never giving back.
ReplyDeleteIT’S EASY TO FEEL UNCARED FOR WHEN PEOPLE AREN’T ABLE TO COMMUNICATE AND CONNECT WITH YOU IN THE WAY YOU NEED. AND IT’S SO HARD NOT TO INTERNALIZE THAT SILENCE AS A REFLECTION ON YOUR WORTH. BUT THE TRUTH IS THAT THE WAY OTHER PEOPLE OPERATE IS NOT ABOUT YOU. MOST PEOPLE ARE SO CAUGHT UP IN THEIR OWN RESPONSIBILITIES, STRUGGLES, AND ANXIETY THAT THE THOUGHT OF ASKING SOMEONE ELSE HOW THEY’RE DOING DOESN’T EVEN CROSS THEIR MIND. THEY AREN’T INHERENTLY BAD OR UNCARING — THEY’RE JUST BUSY AND SELF-FOCUSED. AND THAT’S OKAY. IT’S NOT EVIDENCE OF SOME FUNDAMENTAL FAILING ON YOUR PART. IT DOESN’T MAKE YOU UNLOVEABLE OR INVISIBLE. IT JUST MEANS THAT THOSE PEOPLE AREN’T VERY GOOD AT LOOKING BEYOND THEIR OWN WORLD. BUT THE FACT THAT YOU ARE — THAT DESPITE THE DARKNESS YOU FEEL, YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO SHARE YOUR LOVE AND LIGHT WITH OTHERS — IS A STRENGTH. YOUR WORK ISN’T TO CHANGE WHO YOU ARE; IT’S TO FIND PEOPLE WHO ARE ABLE TO GIVE YOU THE CONNECTION YOU NEED. BECAUSE DESPITE WHAT YOU FEEL, YOU ARE NOT TOO MUCH. YOU ARE NOT TOO SENSITIVE OR TOO NEEDY. YOU ARE THOUGHTFUL AND EMPATHETIC. YOU ARE COMPASSIONATE AND KIND. AND WITH OR WITHOUT ANYONE’S ACKNOWLEDGMENT OR AFFECTION, YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Daniell Koepke