They smile in your face but spit at your name

I've been thinking, are backstabbers referring to those who just speak ill of their friends behind their backs because they are tired of their shits or are back stabbers people who do it on purpose, not to complain but to create a conflict in the clique, to get everyone to side them and get their friend(s) into deep shit.

Because there's a huge difference between both and I think it's ridiculous to have people calling one a backstabber just because one spoke ill of he/she, just to complain.

And it's stupid to call people back stabbers if the definition of back stabbers also includes the people who complain behind their friends' back. 

I mean, don't we all complain? So if that's the case, if that's the definition of backstabber, then I shall confess, I am one of them too. AND I BELIEVE ALL OF YOU ARE.

So let's first get it's definition right.

1.	Backstabber
	People who you think are friends but then they attempt in causing your downfall

Gotten from Urban Dictionary

Here you go! Back stabbers are people who intentionally cause your downfall. NOT THOSE WHO MAKE MINOR COMPLAIN ABOUT YOU JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE SICK OF YOUR SHITS.

But of course, they hurt you with their actions and might cause your friends to dislike you as well. You can tell if it's intentional if your friends decides to fall out with you. If they don't, don't worry about it and ask they if there's anyway you can change. OR AT LEAST, TRY.

And here's another way you can be cautious of people who will be more likely to back stab you. Because it's hard to tell if you can trust certain people.

They might say they're your 'best friends' , but the moment your back is turned, they lie about you to others.
So I've come up with a few "signs" which (I think) you should look out for.

First thing for sure, Be Aware Of Your Surroundings.


If he/she is mean to you one minute and nice to you the next, something is seriously wrong. Take note of the people they're around with when the sudden change of behavior as well. Most probably because they wanna take your place. (EWWW , low class cheaters)

Take notice of how they treat the things you care about as well. For instance if you really care about your room's cleanliness and you've explained this to them but they still come over and mess it all up, it really speaks a lot about how much they care about you. 
SAME GOES FOR friends you're really close with, or people whom you like. If they try to embarrass you in front of them, IT SURE SPEAKS A LOTTTTTTTT ABOUT THEM AS WELL.


Don't you just dislike it when people try to make you a laughing stock or purposely embarrass you when you're with people whom you really care about/ want to make a good impression of? Like your crush, boyf, boyf's friends and all. Bitch.


And there's only a few way out if you don't wanna get your back stabbed.
But how?


Many times, we think that the best solution is to get away from them and convince others not to associate with them. 
Even if we try to do it in a nicer way like just saying that 'they aren't the best person to hang out with", You'll already be back stabbing them first before you're being back stabbed. 
So I say, take care when you do that. And best of luck you fuckin' back stabber as well!




UNLESSSSSSSS....................... (there's always time when we really need to do back stuffs and take desperate measures when we can't find any other solutions :P) THEY'RE BEING A MEAN BITCH ALREADY! This means that they're already trying to sabotage your friendships/relationships with people. (BE SUREEE!)




Don't hesitate to ask questions. If somebody seems shady in any perspective, ask them about it but pay close attention to their answers. More often than not, they will try to pull one over you. 
But there's really nothing you can do if they don't wanna tell the truth. Guess they're really a bitch and just don't wanna salvage the "friendship" you're trying to salvage. 
Actually, this method is kinda useless. Tried it not just once but more than 10 times and out of 10 times, most probably, this will work once. OR MAYBE, NEVER.


BUT FRET NOT! THIS DEFINITELY WORK, if you can.

EVERY BETRAYAL, STARTS WITH TRUST.

Don't rely on those whom you suspect for anything; even the tiniest of things. In this way, you will avoid situations where you owe him/her a favor Or get them screw you over. (TRUST ME!! NOT EVEN THE TINIEST BECAUSE I HAD IT HAPPEN TO ME TWICE. JKFHDKFHKDH!) 


So, if you can't tell them the tiniest thing, don't even tell them any hidden secret. Who knows, they might trade it with some other people to gain something. This method takes patience, practice, it's hard not to trust your "best friends" y'know?


HAH. Looks like there's actually no good way of getting them out of your life or preventing them from back stabbing.


Total avoidance is impractical, and just because you're not where they can see you doesn't  mean you won't end up with one of their blades behind your back or even a cut. Its the nature of backstabbers, after all, to act when you're not around to defend yourself. 

So, all the best, may you meet good people in your life. And if not, too bad, you gotta just be more careful most of the time.


P/s. Please don't take this seriously if you don't agree and take this as a chance to get me on my formspring or anywhere.


P/s/s. I guess this is just a cycle in life we all have to go through eh. So, ignorance is bliss. MAY WE ALL HAVE PEACE. (IN OUR HEARTS AND MINDS) Let us all not be greedy.

Amen?


I don't even know if I'm making sense. LOL